Ever wish you could turn off the ‘noise’ that emits loud and clear from your mind? You can! Learn how to turn off your incessant thoughts that stem from the routines and stresses of daily life. Learn how to turn off the useless noise that emits from the world around you. Do this and you’ll stop being influenced by external ideas of how you should live your life.
By sharing his own stories and experiences, Michael Singer explains how people can stop stressing over how they should spend their life and instead, open their hearts and minds to new opportunities. When you start saying yes to anything and everything that comes your way, you begin your journey of spirituality. Surrender to the natural flow of life to become happier and more successful.
Micheal A Singer takes the reader on a wild ride throughout his life to get to the heart of what spirituality means to him, so he can enlighten others. He side steps the spirituality one upmanship, the cacophony of differing opinions on how to live a meaningful life by sharing insights from his own journey. Readers are taken on a wild ride through his time as a solo truth seeker, successful computer program engineer and humanitarian to learn how to trust their own inner process that will take them to a place of lasting satisfaction.
Key Takeaways from “The Surrender Experiment" by Michael A. Singer
Takeaway #1 Let Go & Be Amazed
When you let go of how you think your life should be, amazing things start to happen. That's right, everyone who told you that you need a plan to succeed in life was wrong, you just need to set intentions instead! Even if you don't realise the greatness of the events that are unfolding right at that time, you'll look back and realise everything that happened at the right time and for the right reason. Life can suddenly become easy with the right people showing up, the right projects, the right property and so much more – The universe knows what you need much better than your ego does!
Takeaway #2 Surrendering Is Not a Sign of Weakness
When you surrender your life to the unknown you're being strong rather than weak, it's not easy to let go of your ego and let yourself go with the flow of energy and allow life to unfold naturally without you pushing it, forcing it, and making it go in different directions.
Takeaway #3 Listen
Slow down and listen so that you can hear what is being offered to you. Through meditation, you can slow your mind and body down enough to connect with your inner self and hear the guidance that offers up creative solutions. This is something that we simply cannot do in the fast-paced modern world that we live in with people and technology always stealing our attention. You might have some crazy ideas once you start connecting with yourself but this is your calling, surrender, and make those ideas a reality because this is your path in life and you cannot go wrong when you listen and trust your gut feeling.
Takeaway #4 Be Grateful
Start a gratitude journal and write in it daily. Be grateful for the people that come into your life, be grateful for the lessons you're learning, be grateful for the things you take for granted. Being grateful is another way to connect you with source. Make sure that the people around you know how grateful you are for them and what they do in your life or business, the more people feel appreciated, the greater they'll work with you / for you.
In-Depth Lessons from The Surrender Experiment
Lesson #1. Quieten Your Mind
When you find yourself in an awkward or uncomfortable situation, worrying about what people will think, you have the opportunity to awaken your spirituality because when you analyze your anxiety, you can reflect on your true self aka your consciousness.
Author Michael Singer discovered his spirituality when an embarrassing situation allowed him the opportunity to analyze his thoughts. During a difficult discussion, he could understand that his conscious mind and his anxious mind were 2 separate systems and therefore, continue with the topic at hand.
You can stop the bothersome chatter in your head, known as your anxious mind, from distracting you by learning Zen meditation, a practise that involves focusing on your breath and repeating special sounds. When mastered, this form of deep meditation can completely quiet an anxious mind leaving you with a sensation of complete relaxation and silence due to your awareness of self completely vanishing.
Lesson #2. Surrender To Life Flow
Ever ask yourself “Why does bad weather always spoil my plans?” or “Why is it only ever sunny when I’m stuck in school or work”? These bad feelings, in this case generated by the weather, are all due to your resistance.
You see, if you have an anxious mind, you’ll often rail against things that you cannot change and cannot control, being easily irritated and affected by many more things than just the weather. Your resistance makes you nervous and agitated, it makes you desperate to find excuses not to do something whilst justifying your actions to yourself and others around you.
There’s another way to live. Learn how to live with the challenges that life puts in front of you but don’t call them challenges - call them opportunities and embrace them wholeheartedly. When you let the flow of life take charge, you find solace not stress.
Lesson #3. Seek Service Not Solitude
Think of a time when you said no to a friend or family member who asked if you could help them out in some way because you thought it was too much of a commitment. Michael Singer tells us that service is much more satisfying than solitude and can help turn the course of your life around in ways you never could have imagined.
For example, the author of The Surrender Experiment chose to accept a job interview, offered by a friend, for an economics teacher position despite having no particular interest in the job. Going because he didn’t want to offend his friend, Michael discovered mid-interview that although he had no interest in teaching the students economics, he would really enjoy teaching meditation and relaxation techniques. The program director who was running the interview loved the idea and accepted the author’s proposal.
So you see, even when you do things that wouldn’t ordinarily interest you, when you say yes to challenges you would usually say no to (walking a dog even though you’re a cat person, babysitting for an hour even though you think you’re rubbish with kids, or accepting a job interview that you think is totally unsuitable for you, you step out of your comfort zone and enter onto an unexpected life path.
Say yes more and see where life leads you.
Lesson #4. Building a Business Is Easier When You Follow The Flow Of Life
Spirituality and meditation is often associated with monks, hippies, and creative people who have no real interest in the material world but spirituality can help you reach your business goals as the author of The Surrender Experiment can attest to.
Thanks to saying yes to new opportunities and taking every opportunity presented to help someone, Michael became a carpenter, the local policeman having seen and admired the community temple that the author had built. This led to more people asking if Michael could do jobs for them and all of a sudden, business was booming and the author had a flourishing carpentry company on his hands. At this point, Michael needed capital but was rejected by several banks due to his lack of experience. Not giving up, he asked one last bank. The president of the bank saw the request and decided to go and see the temple Michael had built. He liked what he saw so authorized the loan and the business grew from strength to strength. The story came full circle when that same bank director quit his job to follow his dream, in this case to open a video store. Now he was the person who needed a loan and Michael was happy to say yes.
Lesson #5. Life Helps You Do More Of What You Like
When author Michael Singer first saw a TRS-80-Computer with its 12” screen in a shop window, he had a feeling that this strange yet fascinating futuristic machine might be useful so he followed his gut instinct and purchased it.
Learning how to use a computer for the first time, Michael became interested in computer programming, finding this new language of coding as relaxing as meditation. Learning fast, he soon found himself on a new career path, coming up with a computerized accounts system for his carpentry business. Before he knew it, just like with his carpentry business before, people were asking him to create software for them. One day, he had a phone call from a new client asking if he could create medical billing software for them. One amazing opportunity led to another and another with Michael soon working alongside a team.
Imagine where our author would be if he’d never purchased that computer that day... Imagine where you might end up if you say yes instead of no...
When you surrender to life completely, the universe acknowledges your unexpected talents quickly, giving you more and more perfect opportunities.
Lesson #6. Life Gives You Exactly What You Need
The right people and the right opportunities come to you when you surrender, all you need to do is accept and embrace the solution. Think about the times you’ve struggled with a problem, not finding the solution quickly or easily because you were too stressed and anxious about it, or even believing it to be the wrong solution? Now think of the time or times when you’ve received exactly what you needed at exactly the right time - were you more relaxed then, more surrendered?
Author Michael Singer realized that life gives you what you need through a series of unfortunate events. At the start of his carpentry business venture, he was dealing with a very demanding customer who wanted numerous changes under very short deadlines. A lot of people would have said ‘enough’s enough’ but Michael persevered, receiving $35,000 at the end of the project. It wasn’t just the money that made this project worth the struggle though, about a week after completion, he got a call saying that the previous demanding client had to move house and was willing to sell the construction to Michael for $37,000.
Similarly, one day the author was informed that the land his community temple was built on couldn’t be used for commercial purposes. The city planners then decided to build a waste dump right next door - the plans were finally scrapped after protests and the wasteland next to the author’s temple came up for sale. It was perfect for the author’s commercial venture.
Lesson #7. Extreme Success Comes From Continued Surrendering
If you were offered a $300 million company out of the blue, would you say yes to the huge responsibility?
Achieving massive success requires you to get used to the idea that you’ll likely have to work hard to maintain it and be forced to expand. It also requires you to know when to stop and when to let your baby, your creation, fly free for the greater good.
Michael Singer built up his software business throughout the 1980s with the help of Larry Horwitz, together creating one of the most successful computer software of its time; Medical Manager. After the completion of that project, Michael was contacted by Empire Blue Cross Blue Shield, one of the biggest insurance providers in the U.S.A to create a management system that would help with the digitization of their medical practises. The software that Michael created was so successful that he was forced to expand his business with investors forming a public company. This meant letting go of every decision making process and the rights to the previous software that he’d built but he knew it had to be done, was part of his journey.
Lesson #8. Surrendering Involves Accepting Extreme Adversity
When life gives you lemons, making lemonade is easy, but what happens when life gets tough and you’re faced with a prison sentence? You have to accept the situation you find yourself facing but must never give up on your principles.
In 2003 Michael Singer was placed under suspicion of fraud, his office raided and his assets confiscated. This was due to an employee who had been accepting bribes from the companies that he brought in, he knew he had been found out by the company so went to the FBI trying to put the blame on Michael.
For most people, this would have ensured a crippling period of stress of anxiety but Michael knew how to surrender to life. He kept calm and came to terms with the situation he faced.
Accepting what you’re faced with is in no way the same as giving up. It means fighting back but with patience and dignity.
Michael was aware that defending the company he’d built up from scratch would be extremely difficult so he hired more than 30 attorneys but even so, was forced to give up his position as CEO. It took 5 years for the case against Michael to be dropped because there was no evidence against him.
Those 5 years allowed our author the time to write The Untethered Soul which went on to become a New York Times bestseller.
The Surrender Experiment Chapters
Chapter One - Waking Up
Chapter Two - The Great Experiment Begins
Chapter Three - From Solitude to Sevice
Chapter Four - The Business Surrender
Chapter Five - Something Priceless is Born
Chapter Six - The Forces of Natural Growth
Chapter Seven - When Dark Clouds Become Rainbows
Chapter Eight - Embracing Explosive Expansion
Chapter Nine - Total Surrender
Best Quotes from The Surrender Experiment
“My formula for success was very simple: Do whatever is put in front of you with all your heart and soul without regard for personal results. Do the work as though it were given to you by the universe itself - because it was.”
“Am I better off making up an alternate reality in my mind and then fighting with reality to make it be my way, or am I better off letting go of what I want and serving the same forces of reality that managed to create the entire perfection of the universe around me?”
“I am so grateful that surrender had taught me to willingly participate in life's dance with a quiet mind and an open heart.”
“Each of us actually believes that things should be the way we want them, instead of being the natural result of all the forces of creation.”
“How could I possibly explain the great freedom that comes from realizing to the depth of your being that life knows what it's doing?”
“No matter who we are, life is going to put us through the changes we need to go through. The question is: Are we willing to use this force for our transformation? I saw that even very intense situations don't have to leave psychological scars, if we are willing to process our changes at a deeper level.”
“Accept the purification power of life's flow.”
“Just kept letting go and practicing nonresistance, whether I liked what was happening or not.”
“A great spiritual teacher once said, “Every day bite off more than you can chew, and chew it.” Life”
“No matter who we are, life is going to put us through the changes we need to go through. The question is: Are we willing to use this force for our transformation? I saw that even very intense situations don’t have to leave psychological scars, if we are willing to process our changes at a deeper level.”
“Clearly remember deciding that from now on if life was unfolding in a certain way, and the only reason I was resisting it was because of a personal preference, I would let go of my preference and let life be in charge.”
“Done properly, yoga is the science of channeling all energies upward until they merge together at the highest point"—Oneness.
― Michael A. Singer - The Surrender Experiment
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Tal Gur is a location independent entrepreneur, author, and impact investor. After trading his daily grind for a life of his own daring design, he spent a decade pursuing 100 major life goals around the globe. His most recent book and bestseller, The Art of Fully Living - 1 Man, 10 Years, 100 Life Goals Around the World, has set the stage for his new mission: elevating the next generation of leaders to their true potential.